The “Oh God, I suck” moment

October 4, 2010

by .Mitch

Everybody’s experienced this. The moment where you say, “oh God, I really suck at this”. Maybe you’ve just screwed up some technique that you’ve done perfectly a thousand times, or some newbie has just kicked your ass in a “light spar”. Maybe you’re working on something new, and you just can’t get your head around it. The thing you have to realize, though, is that more often than not, this moment is a good thing!

OK, yes, sometimes maybe you really do suck at whatever it is. But even assuming that’s true, do you think that you didn’t suck at it yesterday, or last week? Have your skills suddenly  taken a severe decline? Probably not. What’s happened is that your standards have gone up. Yesterday, you were just as lousy, but you didn’t know it. You felt good about yourself. Today, you don’t, and that’s what’s going to help you improve. You can’t get better if you can’t tell what you’re doing wrong, and if you think you’re doing well, obviously you can’t see what you’re doing wrong (and trust me, you’re definitely doing something wrong!) As soon as you realize just how bad you truly are, suddenly you have the opportunity to get better.

If you just get discouraged and go work on something else, you’ve thrown away a golden chance. By doing that, you’ve just moved from the thing that you can improve in, to something where you still can’t see where the problems are, which is to say something that isn’t going to get better with work. Seek out those “I suck” moments, and treasure them! They’re the best thing that can happen to you.



  1. Can’t agree with you more. We all have our moments where we slip up, but how we react to it is our choice. Going back to the drawing board is often the wisest course of action. A reality check–we can’t be the best at everything.

    • That’s just it, though – if I’m understanding you, you’re saying that you should accept that you’re just not good at some things, and that’s exactly not what I’m saying. When you think you’re not very good, it’s because your standards of ‘good’ have improved more than your skills have. That’s an opportunity to improve your skills until you again live up to your own standards (at which point you basically have to improve your perceptions before you can improve your skills again).

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  3. This is a really good way to think about it, thank you. Having a lot of “you suck” moments recently!

  4. I always say to my guys “some days you’re the hammer, others you are the nail.”

  5. agreed, It always comes after pride I have noticed. When your just starting to think your getting the hang of things, or your comfortable with your training partners or school then someone or something comes along and puts you in your place.

    Your ego feels a little bruesed straight afterwards but then you pick yourself up and remember that your just a student. There is always someone bigger better and stronger than you. It would be quiet boring if that wasnt the case

  6. Reblogged this on learn4kicks and commented:
    Came across this post – true enough !

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